What I Learned From Writing About Cheating in My Relationship

I should have prepared for the onslaught

I talked about how even though I should have never cheated I was able to learn from the experience and eventually escape an abusive situation.

The story was far from my best work. I posted it in a bit of a hurry as I was about to leave for vacation, forgot about it, and yesterday and today it has received thousands of views.

I was unprepared for the onslaught of negative comments.

Some of these included one which said abuse was no excuse to cheat, that I was playing the victim, and should have walked out the door and not opened my legs. Another claimed once a cheater always a cheater.

I do not condone cheating by any means.

I never should have done it.

I never should have allowed myself to become entangled in such a treacherous relationship.

But what I shared in that post was hardly the whole story, and the fact that people are so quick to judge someone they’ve never met after reading a few paragraphs will never cease to astound me.

The truth is, I grew up in a family that never taught me how to protect myself against manipulation and abuse. I was emotionally neglected as a child and instead taught to listen, obey, and fear men as my religion taught that they were to not be questioned.

This led to multiple abusive relationships and I believe it made me an easy target for emotional, physical, and narcissistic abuse.

A few years ago, I fell deeply in love with an older man. He presented himself as my savior and prince on a white horse.

At the time I was in distress because my mother had moved across the world with no warning. My father had become even more emotionally abusive due to her leaving, and in turn, I allowed myself to delve into a fantasy with this man.

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